Embracing Change and Self-Love in Dating: Insights from a Dating Coach
Updated: Jun 19, 2024
When you have a moment of profound realization, as many of us have experienced, it can be life-changing. In episode 11 That Was The Moment... God and my higher self conspired and said, “there’s more.” my guest, Lilli, a dating coach, shared invaluable insights on navigating such moments and transforming our lives for the better.
The Courage to Change
Lilli emphasizes that once you become aware of something, you can't unknow it. This awareness requires immense internal courage and external bravery to shift your thoughts, beliefs, behaviors, and actions. It's about healing the root cause of dissatisfaction in your life rather than relying on coping mechanisms like hyper-independence or overperformance. One of the first acts of self-love, Lilli recalls, was being open to the possibility that there was something different out there, even if she didn’t know what it was yet.
Turning Up Your Bright Light

Lilli likens herself to a bright light, and she believes that anything in your life should amplify that light. Whether it's a job, a purpose, money, friendships, or romantic relationships, if something doesn't enhance your light, it might be time to reevaluate its place in your life. She stresses the importance of not self-abandoning or self-sacrificing for things that dim your light. Your work, she says, is in understanding why you accept things that don't help you live your best life.
Breaking Free from Patterns
Feeling stuck is a common experience, but Lilli encourages us to be open to the possibility of a better way. Your patterns are not you—they are simply a part of you that is calling out for healing. You are not hopeless, unlovable, or destined to be alone. Recognizing this distinction is crucial for personal growth and healing. There are many resources available, from free materials to coaching services, that can help you achieve faster and more effective results.
Discovering Your Feminine Dating Archetype
For women who are dating or currently in relationships, recognizing and addressing patterns is essential. Lilli recommends taking the Feminine Dating Archetype Quiz, available at datingarchetype.com. This quick, two-minute quiz reveals your archetype, identifies your blocks to love, and helps you find your true love match.
Embracing change, practicing self-love, and breaking free from limiting patterns are key steps in living your best life. As Lilli's insights reveal, these steps require courage and a willingness to explore new possibilities. By turning up your light and refusing to settle for anything that dims it, you can create a fulfilling and vibrant life.
You can watch Lilli's story now, That Was The Moment... God and my higher self conspired and said, “there’s more.”
You can find out more about Lilli's work datingarchetype.com.
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